While these perspectives seem outdated from a Western perspective and certainly far removed from the contemporary online discourse of “masc4masc” and “no fems,” which permeates LGBTQ dating apps such as Grindr and which actively seeks to exclude effeminate gay males as desirable dating partners, they find remarkable resonance in non-Western forms of same-sex desire (Sarson, 2020). They would also never consider forming a union with someone like them-another “obvious” homosexual. Fairies saw themselves as effeminate males who were sexually attracted to men quite unlike them. Crisp and his fellow “fairies”-the ones “spoiling it for the rest”-desired masculine men or “roughs” and would mostly assume only the insertee role in anal sex. In his memoir, The Naked Civil Servant (first published 1968), the effeminate British raconteur, Quentin Crisp, described how an American actor “expressed to the view that obviously gay boys were ‘spoiling it for the rest’” (Crisp, 1985, p. Since the Second World War and the rise of the middle-class “clone gay” in the US and a similar move away from homosexual effeminacy in Britain-often rooted in working class culture-gender nonconforming or effeminate gay males have been edged out of mainstream understandings of what it means to be gay (Chauncey, 1994 Norton, 2016). It concludes by reaffirming the need to consider gender positionality among gay bottoms’ narratives in Western contexts, and for further research on Western gay men to recognize the heterogeneity of gay identities and experiences. This paper analyses sexual fantasy narratives on the social media platform, Tumblr, and interrogates a deep structure of gender-stratified male androphilia that finds thematic similarities in non-Western settings, where “egalitarian” or Western “gay” expressions of male same-sex unions compete with traditional “heterogender” forms. In wider LGBTQ media in Europe and North America there is an effort to destigmatize effeminate gay men in a dating culture that privileges “masc4masc.” While this is welcome, it obscures the existence of effeminate gay bottom fantasies that are gender stratified and which insist on a connection between sex role preference, sex object choice, and gender presentation. Recent discussions of gay male bottom identity have been cautious about positioning bottoms in relation to a gendered identity, and thereby colluding with stereotypes about gay bottoms being effeminate and effeminate gays being bottoms.